To find fellowship—isn’t that what we all want? Fellowship with our family, friends, neighbors, as well as with our larger social circle can provide a sense of belonging as well as a buffer zone to who or what might lurk out there.
In the fall of 2003, after we lost everything in the Cedar Fire, we went to a meeting held in a dirt lot in Fernbrook. Our district’s County Supervisor, Dianne Jacob, was there to take note of the types of services we might be in need of. But beyond that, I felt such an overwhelming sense of fellowship with everyone there. We now all shared a commonality with each other. And that alone was a strong and palpable bond, even if we didn’t know everybody.
But fellowship can encompass an infinite range of circumstances. I can take a walk up the mountain, look toward the sky, and sometimes feel bowled over from the connection I feel with the beautiful clouds dancing in the breeze. Sort of “being one with them.” Or if a squirrel is on the boulder just outside my bedroom window, looking in at me, and at the same moment I happen to glance out, this also provides a kind of connection. I smile and say, “Hi.”
And then there are those training sessions through work or other organizations during which we’re sectioned into groups to practice together or perhaps to compete against the other groups. Then we are in a state of amity with each other. Sort of like, “We’re in this together.” Sports and tribal groups can fall into this category. It’s helpful to recognize that our involvement in these situations can lead to herd attitudes.
But fellowship can also occur spontaneously like when we’re standing in the checkout line at the grocery store and engage with someone else—either a nod, a laugh, or just a few words exchanged. This alone can sometimes make my day and lift my mood for longer than you’d think.
Just the other night we had a potluck dinner with a couple who are close, longtime friends. Anyway, as life happens it had been a number of years since the four of us got together to share a meal. Yes, far too long. But it’s so rewarding to have friends like this that we can feel like we can pick up where we’d left off no matter how long it’s been. Time doesn’t always have to feel linear.
So, where do you find fellowship? Today, I’m hanging out with my dog, Zelda. We started out with a walk down the dirt road, then later she kept me company while I took a sunbath (collecting vitamin D). Now she’s lying at my feet outside as I write this. A quiet camaraderie on a Sunday afternoon. We both know the other is there, and there’s a comfort in that.
Chi Varnado has published six books including fiction, nonfiction and children’s books. They are available on www.amazon.com. Her collection of essays, Quail Mutterings, can be found on www.chivarnado.com or www.dancecentrepresents.com.
She is available to adults and children for fun tutoring in writing. Her Outdoor Writers group is meeting from 10:00 to 11:00 AM at Dos Picos Park by the pond on Saturdays July 5 and 19. If interested just show up with a $10 cash donation and paper and pen (or laptop) to follow your creative muse.